6 Dec 2020

NEW – 2021 KINDABILITY group (only 12 spots available)

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I have been thinking about 2020 and how to complete this year while looking toward 2021 and thinking about what I want to create in the world and in my life.

What keeps coming up for me is:

  • Creating community

  • Creating a safe space to try new things or let things go

  • Creating a life that is not limited by circumstances

  • Feeling more peace, love and joy in my life

If you are called to making 2021 the year you get that project completed, find your next true love, start that business, create a retirement plan, leave that job or organize your kitchen then a KINDABILITY group may be just the next right step for you.

During the year you will:

-Get clarity on what it is you want and why you want it – even if you think you already know.

-Be a part of a supportive non-judgmental group that is in your corner – no matter what you “do”.

-Be able to see yourself mirrored back in a loving way and over a period of time.

-Be a member of a group that is moving toward a life filled with love, kindness and joy.

-Experience engaged, kind, and guided participation to ensure you are immersed in your project/goal while still feeling good.

-Connect with like-minded people and have a mega-mind of focus on your goal/project.  (You don’t know what you don’t know).

-Have a year of group wisdom to help point you to YOUR wisdom.

 

“Our repeated failure to fully act as we would wish must not discourage us.  It is the sincere intention that is the essential thing, and this will in time release us from the bondage of habits which at present seem almost insurmountable.” 

-Thomas Troward

I love this quote because it really points to the importance of the intention we have and the attention we give to the things we want to accomplish in life.  I was also pondering other words in this quote and it got me curious about…

Failure – What does failure really mean, to me?

Act – How much, how often, when?

Discouraged – What discourages me, what encourages me?

Intention – Is it clear and still inspiring today?

Essential – What is the next essential step?  Is it really essential?

Time – What is the time frame I have created around my project or goal?

Habits -What habits have I been using, what habits could I change, what habits am I committed to keeping?

Insurmountable – What have I told myself is the THING that is stopping me?

The intention of a KINDABILITY group is to create the space for you to explore these things for yourself in a safe and kind environment with the intention of the group (and me) keeping you accountable (with kindness) when you forget.

If you think a KINDABILITY group could be just the structure you need in 2021 to achieve your dream, goal, or intention then please review the details below and email me at sgoliti@gmail.com to let me know you want to participate.  

DETAILS:

Wednesday’s – 8am-9:30am pst

18 sessions *(session dates below)

$699 for the year

BONUS: If paid in full by 12/31/20 you will receive (1) – 1on1 coaching session with me to be used anytime during 2021.

Limited to 12 participants committed to engaging in a process to create something wonderful in their own life.

All sessions Via Zoom

*Session Dates:

January 13 & 27

February 10 & 24

March 10 & 24

April 7 & 21

May 12 & 26

June 9 & 23

July 21

August 18

September 15

October 20

November 17

December 15

And, finally, if you have read to this point and you are thinking that YES, I want to participate BUT (I don’t have the money, I can’t make those times, I don’t know what I want to accomplish, etc.) please still email me and we will work something out.  Don’t let the circumstances get in the way of your knowing.  Investigate.  Let’s talk.

No matter where you decide to get your support or where you create your community, I wish you a joyous, heart-filled and loving 2021!

In Peace,

Susie

30 Jun 2020

Your wisdom has ALL the answers

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Dear fellow life travelers,

 

I created this banner image before I wrote this blog.  In some ways, I think it says it all, seemingly so simple and yet in practice slippery.  How do we hear our own wisdom?  How do we distinguish between someone else’s wisdom and our own?  For me, it’s practicing listening to my feelings.  Listening to my clear knowing and trusting it – even when everyone or everything around me is trying to tell me otherwise.

 

I’ve been told I march to my own drummer, that I am a Pollyanna, that I am unrealistic, ungrounded, idealistic, out-of-touch, stupid.  I have also been told I am a visionary, an inspiration, a truth-sayer, grounded, a rock.  I probably am all those things and much more at different times but it’s what I KNOW me to be that matters.  How do we not get influenced by how others label us?  Personally, I don’t think we can’t get influenced – It’s what we do after the label that I what to talk about.

 

I look at those labels (let’s call them negative for now) in the first list as reflections of the person who said them.  I try to stop to see if there is anything in what they are saying that rings true for me.  Sometimes there is and sometimes there is not, but my work is to stop to look for myself and not get caught up in defending against their position or taking their position as true.  Only I get to say WHO I am for me, for real.

 

Only you get to say WHO you are!

 

At this time in history, this seems more important than ever.  As the Black Lives Matter movement escalates, as systemic racism running through our country becomes more and more exposed, we are being called to bring our wisdom forward.  We can no longer accept and regurgitate the “wisdom” of others.  The labels that were created and taught and perpetuated for “others.”  We, especially white people, are being called to wake up to the truth around us.  To cultivate and listen to our true wisdom to find our way toward equality.

 

True wisdom comes from that place deep inside each of us that connects us to each other.  Connects us to life, nature, the universe.  Connects us to the divine and truth.  This wisdom will never harm us or anyone/anything else.  This wisdom is yours and you are this wisdom.  We are all this wisdom and this wisdom is LOVE.

 

We are all this wisdom and this wisdom is LOVE.

 

You may be saying – ok, now I get that Pollyanna label or yeah, but, what about horrible people that do horrible things to others – they can’t have this wisdom.  They can’t be connected to love.  That’s the slippery part.  We can override our true nature (love) over and over and not even know it.  We might even say – that’s just how I am.  But, deep down we are all love so any other story about who you are is believing a label that was either told to you, experienced by you, or taught to you and not filtered through your TRUE wisdom.

 

STOP believing another person’s truth about you!

 

Check it out for yourself.  Find ways to get silent and check in with your wisdom.  What you are doing, saying, thinking will all be revealed in your feelings.  Listen to the feeling that feels true.  Listen for the feeling that feels good, solid, yours.  Listen to the feeling that moves toward love.  That is your wisdom.

 

Listen to the feeling that moves toward love.  That is your wisdom.

 

As I navigate through my life sometimes, I am very clear and practice listening to my wisdom. Other times, I can override it.  That is what it is to be human.  My goal is to keep noticing and just move toward love.  Move toward a good feeling.  Move toward my wisdom.  Over and over and over again.  Because I know it will be from this place of wisdom/love that I will find my next right action, my next right words, my next right thought – for me.  I am the only person who could ever find it.  I have to keep looking no matter how clumsy, awkward, or alienating it may be to others.  The world needs our TRUTH our LOVE our WISDOM.  The world needs us now.  You need you now.

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“In the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, from the prison of past conditioning. 

Uncertainty is the fertile ground of creativity and freedom.”

– Deepak Chopra

 

“Kindness is wisdom.” – Philip James Bailey

 

“The most certain sign of wisdom is cheerfulness.”

– Michel de Montaigne

 

“You already have all your answers – just listen”

– Susie Goliti

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IT IS UP TO YOU TO LIVE YOUR TRUTH – YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN!

 

If you are you looking for support in creating your life from your intuition, your inspiration, your truth –  Please book a FREE consultation with me to see what may be possible.

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31 May 2020

One simple question can provide instant truth

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Dear fellow life travelers, transformation junkies and love seekers,

I wanted to write about a recent experience I had around taking care of myself.  I share it because I think it may resonate with you and also, I share it to provide you with a way of thinking about self-care, our intentions around self-care, and our ability to access the truth about self-care (for us) in the moment – for real.

 

I was living my life and then the Corona Virus happened.

 

As most of you are now experiencing – our lives are ON-LINE!  The amount of time we spend in front of some sort of screen has skyrocketed.  Just look at ZOOM’s user base, it went from 10 Million to 200 Million in like a month.  I’m a ZOOM user.  I offer group coaching via ZOOM and have taken other courses and classes via ZOOM.  But, my gosh, my eyes were not ready to be on-line so much.  I had to declare one full day as a no-screen day just to recover.  It’s my experience with trying to actually have that no-screen day that I want to share with you.

 

SELF-CARE – it’s a practice!

 

After I had been on the computer for the whole weekend on a retreat that had been scheduled as in-person but got moved to ZOOM, I coordinated several ZOOM calls before and after each session to catch up with family, different friend groups, other in-person groups that now were going online, etc. I actually had a physical recoil from the screen at 9:30 pm during my last call on Sunday evening.  I had to just leave the meeting.  I have never ever had that experience.  I did what I always try to do when I can feel something is not right – I ask myself this question:  What would I be happy to have done?  And the clear and immediate answer was leaving the call.

 

WHAT WOULD I BE HAPPY TO HAVE DONE?

 

I first heard this question as a tool to use in an Alison Armstrong (Celebrating Men/Satisfying Women) seminar about 15 years ago.  It’s so powerful because it forces you to separate from the actual moment and causes your brain to quickly find an answer to the question.  It allows a real moment response to a past promise, commitment, or plan.  Life shifts, why do we think we can’t?

The no-screen day was declared.  I scheduled it for  3 days later because that was the earliest, I could fit it in.  On the appointed day I spent like 3 hours on the computer and phone.  Ok, I know, that does not seem like much to write about BUT in my defense, the 3 hours I did spend were for things I really wanted to do and only 3 hours did seem like a big break.  But it did surprise me that I really couldn’t take a full day’s break.  My mom and others called (phone), some texts came in (I answered), A teacher I love offers daily one-hour live calls and he had a call that day.  It made me realize how attached I am to my screens.  So, what do I do with this?  How do I navigate going forward?  The only thing I can say is that I need to continue asking myself – What would I be happy to have done?  And, what feels good – right now?  And then do that.

 

WHAT FEELS GOOD?  RIGHT NOW?  DO THAT!

 

My internal knowing never lets me down if (1) I ask and (2) I don’t override it.  I can rationalize away from my clear yes or no in a flash. Even when that yes or no comes from spirit/intuition/knowing (whatever we call it).  I don’t want to let someone down (but I’ll let myself down), I don’t want to disappoint someone (but I will disappoint myself), I want to be a good friend (but I am a bad friend to me).  I am not sure where I got the idea that self-care is selfish (probably from someone who wanted me to override my knowing and do what they wanted me to do) but as I age (like a fine wine) I KNOW that no one can take care of me like I can take care of me – IT IS UP TO ME.

 

IT IS UP TO ME AND THAT’S GOOD NEWS

 

During this time of shelter-in-place and as the world starts to reopen keep asking yourself questions that get to your knowing.  Questions that point you in the direction of your passion, your ease, your contentment.  Questions that help you stop and listen, stop and assess in the present moment what YOU need (or don’t need) right now.  You got you!

 

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“Be gentle first with yourself” – Lama Yeshe

 

“This above all: to thine own self be true.” – William Shakespeare

 

“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is enlightenment.” – Lao Tzu

 

“Give yourself permission to change your mind – even if it scares others.” – Susie Goliti

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IT’S UP TO YOU TO LIVE A LIFE YOU LOVE?  That’s good news.

If you are you looking for support in creating your life from your intuition, your inspiration, your truth –

Please book a FREE consultation with me to see what may be possible.

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4 Mar 2020

Thoughts on Integrity

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Dear Transformation Junkies,

As I have been reviewing my old notes, lectures and retreat materials from over 25 years of personal growth there are some concepts that I have adopted as my own and live my life from – I almost hear myself saying “DUH”.  And, there are other concepts and learnings that I made a note of and then, poof – 25 years went by.

I know that the message/lesson will appear when I am ready to hear it but it still fascinates me that my inner wisdom saw these teachings and noted them but my conscious mind somehow let the conversation of the new idea/thought slip by.  This is why I am reading all my old notes and journals.  Partly to see how much ground I’ve covered but also to witness how much more there is to uncover.  I LOVE this stuff!!!

 

Be a loving witness to your whole catastrophe

 

My dad used to say this line from the movie Zorba the Greek “…the full catastrophe” he would put it at the end of whatever he was talking about.  “Yes, I went to see the performance (insert any play, music or performance that you had to dress up to see), drove to the city, parked the car and had to get dressed in a suit, the whole catastrophe,”  I remember his saying whole as opposed to full but that really does not matter.  You get the point – it was a catchphrase in our family.  Whatever was said you could just add that to the end “… the whole catastrophe.”

As I read my journals and notes I am seeing the whole catastrophe.  The entirety of my life and the bits and pieces that I felt were important.  The parts that I really worked on and incorporated into my life and the parts that I was not ready to address yet.  I am following the impulse to review and write about this.  I am simply following that impulse and I have no idea where it will take me, but I am prepared to write about the whole catastrophe.  I hope you will find something that resonates and perhaps has you perk up to what else there is for you to dig deeper into in your own life.  If there is anything I’ve truly learned it’s that we are never done growing, learning and creating.  The journey is the purpose.

 

There is no THERE to get to

 

I was leafing through some notes and in several places, the word/concept of Integrity came up.  I remember talking about integrity in the Landmark Forum (my first ever transformational weekend) and the leader said something to the effect of – All there is to integrity is that when you are out of integrity you need to clean it up, recommit and get back into integrity.  I remember thinking – WHAT, it can’t be that easy.  I need to be punished, there need to be consequences.  Well, it turns out.  It is that easy.

The word integrity has so many meanings but this one is a pretty standard one:

Integrity is the practice of being honest and showing consistent and uncompromising adherence to strong moral and ethical principles and values. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one’s actions.

Ok – sounds good BUT what is the truth?  Whose morals?  Whose principles?  When I was growing up my grandmother was more of the old school philosophy -girls should be seen but not heard – boys are superior.  Um…excuse me.  Needless to say, I was pretty challenged by that and I bring it up not to accuse my grandmother of being wrong (although she was) this was how she was raised.  This was the truth for her.  This was the correct, moral and accepted way to think and act.

Frankly, I think this one issue is at the root of all the unrest on our planet.  Religions, cultures, communities, families all have some sort of thinking and truths that make up the integrity of the group and everyone adheres to these truths to fit in, to be accepted and belong.  Of course, we do this – it’s basic survival.  But what if you don’t agree with the truth of the group.  What if deep down you know what is being said, taught, believed does not align with your heart.  What then?

 

ONLY YOU CAN KNOW WHAT IS ALIGNED WITH YOUR INTEGRITY

 

Wait, what?  I need to define my own integrity.  I am responsible for my own truth?  I am the only one who will know if I am in integrity?  Maybe others got to this sooner than I did but when I really got this concept it was both liberating and terrifying.  Liberating because I knew on a heart level that I was living my life based on other people’s and societal truths and I needed to step up and define for myself what was morally right and ethically correct for me.  This was really growing up for me because I could no longer (really) blame anyone else for anything that did not go right in my life (although believe me I still tried).  Which brings me to the terrifying part because now it was all up to me.  Based on my upbringing, my culture, where I lived, how I was educated, what I liked or did not like, etc.  I was the only person who could truly define what was valuable, ethical, moral and true.  I had to make it up.

 

Side note: We make it all up so no need to panic but it sure seems real sometimes

 

I can’t really remember what exactly happened for me 25 years ago when I started to see this for myself but I know that from this vantage point in my life I can see that I let some situations that were not aligned with my values stay in my life way too long.  Those situations that called for me to speak up and assert myself I did not do in order to be a good girl.  I’m not saying that people should not aspire to be a good girl – I’m just saying define for yourself what a good girl (or boy) means to you and then do that.

When you separate morality from integrity (frankly what is morality anyway) then you can distinguish integrity as itself:

  1. Keeping promises and agreements and doing what is expected (that you agreed to)
  2. Being true to your principles and values
  3. Honoring your word as yourself

When we make others wrong usually we are out of integrity or not keeping our word.  This is something to notice and just to alert us as to where you may be out of integrity.  Hey (they) probably did indeed do something wrong (right – I hear you) but if we are in integrity, we instinctually know there was nothing else for us to do.  If we find we are getting upset then there probably was something that we could have done/not done, said/not said to have had a better outcome.  Otherwise, it’s just a matter of what worked or did not work – not digging in to prove they are wrong, and we are right.

I wish I could lay out for you a formula for integrity and what elements are required and correct – but I can’t.  The choice is yours.  I can, however, encourage you to start noticing how you live your life.  What do you say yes to and then go – “I don’t want to do that, but I guess I have to because I said I would.”  Notice why you said yes – was it because you were aligned with the request and then something changed or where you aligned with some other persons/institutions/communities/religions/governments’ ideas of what is true and correct.

Just notice for now and then slowly, as you start to see that this is all made up anyway, decide what you value, for real, what resonates in your bones as your truth.  Start to allow it to speak to you.  Perhaps it will be that you need to fly to an island by yourself for a week with no Wi-Fi and unplug during the same time that your family has scheduled a family reunion on a date that never worked for you anyway.  The key is to not commit to what is not in alignment in the first place and the secret is if you did then just go back and clean it up and make a new commitment.  “Hey, I can’t make the reunion, but I will have 2 dozen bagels delivered for breakfast.”

 

May you be aligned with your integrity – always.

 

“Integrity is telling myself the truth.  And honesty is telling the truth to other people.”

-Spencer Johnson

“Integrity is not something that you should have to think about…nor consider doing…but something in the heart that is already done.”

-Doug Firebaugh

“Perhaps the surest test of an individual’s integrity is his refusal to do or say anything that would damage his self-respect.”

-Thomas S. Monson

 

When you are out of integrity – all there is to do is get back into it!

Side note: I almost didn’t write this blog because I wanted to have it done by February 29th and since I did not, I thought – oh, forget it.  However, my integrity tapped me and reminded me that I said (my word to myself) I was going to write a blog each month.  If I just didn’t do it then I would be breaking my word with myself (no one else is watching me).  Once I stopped and was aware of my integrity being out all I needed to do was acknowledge it and recommit.  I could have then decided to not write this but because I took the time to check in with myself, I cleaned up my out of integrity (not writing it and planning to slink away) and recommitted to write it and post – I was able to just do it.  Tada!

For those of you who are saying- well that’s just letting yourself off the hook – please see my reaction above when I too first learned this idea of integrity being either in or out.  Someone needs to be punished you say.  Um…do they?  You decide.  You have your whole lifetime to ponder it.

 

If you are you looking for support in creating your life from your intuition, your inspiration, your truth then

  Please book a FREE consultation with me to see what may be possible.

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31 Jan 2020

Allowing the EXTRA in the ordinary

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Dear Transformation Junkies (and love seekers),

As 2020 begins I’ve been ruminating on what I would like to share in our transformational world here in the blog.  I know it’s not to post every day as I did in 2019 (which was awesome) and yet not calling me anymore.  Although stay tuned for a book of my experience of posting an intentional act of love every day – coming soon!

And, I also know I want it to feel easy and happy and joyful and free.  This puts me at odds with myself because when I have structure, consequences, accountability I get stuff done but it can feel restrictive.  When I just let myself follow what feels right, I ramble, get lost, stop, restart and love it.

So, my friends I am going to follow the ease and plan to review my old notes, lectures, retreat materials from over 25 years of transformative learning and just reflect on them.  I hope it will be interesting for you and that you will be inspired to do some reflecting on your own.

 

Welcome to “Musings of a Transformation Junkie” –

Where the path has not been paved and the journey is the goal.

 

I was looking at my notes from a Landmark Education course and came across my notes on being extraordinary.  The first thing that caught my eye was my note that “being extraordinary is found in being ordinary” that we are so concerned with being viewed as ordinary we look for the EXTRA “in order to” not be viewed as ordinary as opposed to allowing the EXTRA to “occur” in its divine way.

In our ordinary life, we are going along and then the thought occurs – there is something wrong here – that is/this is or I am too ordinary.  We start to think we have to be extraordinary to stand out/deserve/belong.  What if the EXTRA we bring into our ordinary experience is to give up the story that there is anything wrong?  That what is happening is exactly what is happening – without meaning.  Not to say we can’t affect some change in the circumstances by doing, not doing or saying, not saying something but that the doing/saying comes from the impulse to “create” not the impulse to “fix” the ordinary we are.  Our ordinary is a part of us, it is us.  Let us embrace it and learn from it and enhance it as opposed to gagging it and shoving it in the basement.

When I was preparing this blog post I read quotes on the idea of extraordinary and so many of them perpetuate the idea that the last thing you would ever want to be is ordinary.  Like it was evil.  It surprised me to see how much our culture validates this idea that the ordinary you are is not enough.  It makes me wonder how much this affects our youth as they try to navigate this world and start out being bombarded with the message that they are not enough that they MUST add the EXTRA.  At all costs.

 

We are enough. Now we can play the game to add the EXTRA.

 

Recently I was giving a workshop to a room of people I had never met.  I was prepared, arrived early, had my notes, etc. and during the talk I found myself disconnecting.  Going into my head and not being present.  That is ordinary.  What I found in me, the EXTRA, was to realize the disconnection, let it be and choose what to do next. Then I had the space to reconnect, to reengage.  This happened several times.  Probably not my best workshop but for me it allowed me to practice presence, compassion, and faith.  I was able to practice allowing the divine to work through me in real-time.  I had access to bring in the EXTRA on top of the ordinary, not in spite of the ordinary.

 

Ordinary is the foundation from which EXTRA is created

 

What if Normal is the you that is you, the you that can only be you and the you that no one else can be?  In essence – the NORMAL you.  If that was enough (which it is) and you knew that as true, then adding the EXTRA to the NORMAL makes you EXTRA-normal.  Or in this case, EXTRA-you.  Now that conversation interests me.  How do we bring in more of ourselves into the world?  If I can’t be at peace with my ordinariness, then there is no opening for extraordinary.

Like a snowflake that is uniquely itself (no other like it) floating down in a sea of other snowflakes, it appears NORMAL and it is a normal snowflake.  Is that bad?  Of course not.  Now I don’t think snowflakes create games to play like we humans do so they probably are in full acceptance of their EXTRA in their ordinary, but we love to create games, create meaning, create right/wrong or good/bad.  What if we could be like that normal snowflake, accept that we are a snowflake and then look to share our uniqueness, our particular shape, cut, ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc.  Not in order to be the best of all the snowflakes but to be the best snowflake we can be.

 

Be Extraordinary – for no reason!

 

I was at a retreat once and a speaker pointed out that however discouraged or overwhelmed I might be in regard to speaking my truth or feel like how could it matter because I am just ordinary, what could I have to offer – that my unique way of speaking, my particular EXTRA spin, insight, message could be the only way that another person could hear/see/understand it.  That by my holding back my EXTRA in fear of looking bad or in order to look good I would kill off the EXTRA that was needed at that moment, for that person.

Anyway, this idea just struck me and gave me room to be where I am right now to accept myself as I am right now and trust that my EXTRA comes out in the moments when I allow it to emerge unencumbered with my restrictions on how it needs to appear.  I am feeling grateful for my extraordinary ordinariness.

 

“I was not a messiah, but an ordinary man who had become a leader because of extraordinary circumstances.”

-Nelson Mandela

“Your ordinary acts of love and hope point to the extraordinary promise that every human life is of inestimable value.”

-Desmond Tutu

“My powers are ordinary.  Only my application brings me success.”

-Isaac Newton

 

If you are you looking for support in creating your life from your intuition, your inspiration, your truth –

Please book a FREE consultation with me to see what may be possible.

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Visit my website: www.susiegoliti.com

Follow your heart.

 

May you find your Extra in the Ordinary!

1 Dec 2019

A Year of Love: GRATITUDE

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Dear Love Seekers,

As my year of intentional acts of love comes to a close, I am feeling so grateful for the experience.  I am grateful for the support of others who shared with me that they appreciated hearing from me every day about my journey and sharing how they were inspired to do their own acts of love.

I feel grateful for the many lessons and insights I have learned throughout this year like the fact that more times than not I do things without intention.  That sometimes I take myself too seriously and judged my acts of love as too little or too selfish or not enough.  I also feel profoundly grateful that I was able to have this experience to remind myself that I can be a stand for love no matter what.  That I have a choice of how I want to be in the world and that by creating a goal and sticking to it I can feel proud and strong.  I am grateful for all the reminders of my capacity for love and the capacity of love from others.  I am in awe of the power of love.

This month I wanted to explore gratitude since we are in the season of giving thanks, spending time with the ones we love and preparing to move forward into a new year.  All of which can make us feel wonderful or devasted or some variation in-between.

I opened my email today and there was this from Tony Robbins.  Thank you, universe!

You can’t be angry and grateful simultaneously.

You can’t be fearful and grateful simultaneously. 

Gratitude is the antidote to anger and fear.

 

When you live in gratitude, you have more to give. You no longer focus on what you lack, and you no longer feel like you don’t have enough. Gratitude is the vehicle that gets you to a life overflowing with abundance and fulfillment.

 

By definition, grateful is feeling or showing appreciation for something done or received. It is a positive feeling and usually triggered by some event.  The event could be as simple as someone smiling at you and you then feeling positive.

This power we have to take an event (smile) and then create a story around it (thinking) that then creates our (feelings) which ultimately creates our (action) and leads to the (result) of what we then have in our life is forever a puzzle that we each alone need to navigate.

That one smile could lead us to think (what a nice person or what are they smirking at) which would result in a feeling of (people can we so warm or everyone is trying to get something over on me) which then would lead to a result (smile back and feel warm thoughts or turn away and believe your story of how they are a bad person) which ultimately will result in (perhaps making a new friend and feeling good vs. bumming another person out and feeling bad and alone).

There is no wrong or right here – just choice.  What will you choose to be grateful for?  How can you be grateful for whatever comes your way?  How do you want to feel?

Change your thoughts, change your feelings.

I have kept a gratitude journal off and on over the years and diligently tracked the 5 things I was grateful for each day.  I have woken up in the morning and laid in bed to ask myself questions to start my day and one of them is what I am grateful for.  I have practiced meditation with a series of questions I begin with and one of them is, what I am grateful for.  I try to tap into the power of the moment when I am in traffic and want to scream by asking myself, what am I grateful for?

All of these practices have been powerful and helpful, but what about finding what to be grateful for when your car stalls on the 405 or someone you love dies or your identity is stolen?  How can we be grateful in the moments that are mundane, horrific or sad?  I’m not saying that you should not feel the pain of what’s happening but at some point if you can ask yourself, what am I grateful for in this moment, this situation or what is the lesson or how can I help, then your thinking will move toward what you want vs. what you don’t want – your energy will automatically follow.

This life thing is practice.  Here are some simple ways to practice living a life of gratitude:

  1. Think positive thoughts. When negative thoughts bombard your mind, slow down your thinking and replace them with positive thoughts.
  2. Help someone.
  3. Do something creative or go into nature
  4. Move your body and get active.
  5. Make a gratitude list.
             
            Wishing you all a love-filled holiday season.  I am grateful to you, for you and because of you.

 

Thoughts on GRATITUDE:

“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.”

– Marcus Tullius Cicero

“The more grateful I am, the more beauty I see.” – Mary Davis

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” – Anonymous

“When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude.”

– G.K. Chesterton

 

Please read my January 2019 post for the details of my original idea to intentionally spread love.

Follow my Facebook page www.facebook.com/SusieGolitiCoaching where I will share how it’s going.  Feel free to post your version of what you want to put out in the world.  Let’s flood the world with LOVE (Kindness, Joy, Peace, Happiness, Faith, Ease, Grace, Truth, Power, Forgiveness and Gratitude).

If you are you looking for support in creating your life from your intuition, your inspiration, your truth –  Please book a FREE consultation with me to see what may be possible for you.

May your life be filled with more moments of gratitude and may that gratitude spill over into our world.

In Love, Kindness, Joy, Peace, Happiness, Faith, Ease, Grace, Truth, Power, Forgiveness (and Gratitude),

Susie Goliti

(aka Transformation Junkie)